We all Dip Below the Line Sometimes
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Staying above the line means asking, “What is mine to own in this moment?” and choosing to contribute rather than retreat.
Leadership is not just about strategy and decision-making—it’s about mindset. In times of challenge, uncertainty, or even routine, the choice to lead from “above the line” determines whether we lead with intention or react out of habit.
Above the line is marked by ownership, accountability, and responsibility. It requires self-awareness over detachment, curiosity over judgment, learning over defensiveness, and engagement over avoidance. Below the line behaviors—blame, disengagement, or resistance to feedback—can stifle progress and weaken relationships. The challenge for leaders is to recognize when they’re slipping below and make the conscious choice to rise.
Understanding the Line
In this context, the concept of the line is not about authority, control or “keeping people in line.” Rather, it is about showing up as your favorite self and being self-aware when you dip below your own standards.
“It helps us to own our reactions by recognizing our values and beliefs have been challenged. Rather than thinking someone ‘made you react,” you pause and become curious about what is going on inside you that has triggered your emotions.” (Unchartered Leadership)
It is helpful to differentiate between authority (a role) and leadership (action). Sometimes we are providing direction, protection, and order, while changing circumstances may call for challenging the status quo. In all of this, the leader is setting the tone and shaping the culture.
So, who sets the line? Well, leaders do. Leaders set a line for themselves. In Leadership Austin class, the group co-creates their operating agreements, or rules of engagement, outlining how they will treat each other and guests during the program.
It is fun to see iterations with creative flair, such as “Don’t yuck my yum” meaning do not disparage another’s views or personal tastes simply because they’re not your own.
Engaging with Purpose
Disengagement is one of the greatest risks to leadership. Whether it’s withdrawing from difficult conversations, showing up passively, or feeling overwhelmed by complexity, the temptation to disconnect is real. But leadership requires presence. Staying above the line means asking, “What is mine to own in this moment?” and choosing to contribute rather than retreat.
Leadership as a Daily Practice
Staying above the line isn’t a destination; it’s a practice. It’s the daily decision to approach challenges with an open mind, accept feedback as fuel for growth, and remain adaptable in the face of change. When we lead with self-awareness and accountability, we set the tone for others to do the same.
The Power of Relationships
True leadership is relational. It thrives in trust, mutual respect, and the ability to navigate tough conversations with honesty and grace. When we stay above the line, we invest in relationships, knowing that leadership isn’t about being right—it’s about being connected and bringing out the best in others.
At Leadership Austin, we believe Central Texas’ future is shaped by leaders who choose engagement over retreat, accountability over blame, and connection over division. The question is: Where are you leading from today?
